Why we feel the way we feel about Learning

I had a thought today that struck me like a thunder in a... ok can't think of a good analogy here, other than the thunder part, but bear with me.

Here is the realization:

In a very basic way, our brain is wired to pursue pleasure and avoid pain.
So, when it comes to our ability to LEARN, the feeling we absorbed from our parents at a young age around the experience of learning will influence our natural reaction and motivation when it comes to learning.

I know what you must be thinking: "yada yada what now?"

OK rewind, slow down and repeat..:

If your parents themselves feel good about results, but not about the process of learning, then when you were a kid, they responded very positively (happy feelings) when you got things "right", but were not very happy (or maybe even disappointed) when you got things wrong, or were in the process of learning. for now, let's not ask why they were this way, but just take it as a given... suppose that's how they were.

So, as a kid, your tiny little developing brain learned to associate success with a pleasant feeling and "failure" with an unpleasant feeling.
Sometimes when kids are left alone, without praise or input from adults, they naturally and quietly develop persistence in learning. They don't go through large mood swings in the process of learning (very happy during success and very frustrated during failure). Adults have their egos invested in the RESULTS and they transfer the same thing to their kid. They become very happy when they think that their kid "is a genius" and what they subconsciously teach that kid is that process is not something to value, but results are the only thing that counts. Knowledge of how to build nests is transferred down generations of birds.... and this type of knowledge, I believe is transferred down through generations of humans.

If you look at kittens as they're training to become better hunters, they have no sense of frustration in "failures" at all. To them, all the attempts are a pleasurable game and they can persist indefinitely. I think every kid has the potential for the same state of mind. But adults can certainly hinder it.

So, what do you do as an adult, if you find yourself in the category of someone who becomes easily frustrated when not seeing immediate "results"? Well, you have to realize that you need to reprogram your mind and teach yourself to FEEL differently. (No, not to ACT differently, but to FEEL differently. I believe feeling leads to action).

OK hopefully, this explanation was not too confusing or too convoluted. But it explains why a lot of kids grow up to need huge amounts of "self discipline" in order to get work done. It's a result of how their subconscious was programmed (expect to receive pleasure only as a result of "success" because their dumbass parents didn't know better, because they were raised in the same way, with no patience or appreciation of process). Basically, it's nobody's fault, but it is still a problem, because it robs us humans of that healthy state of mind of leisurely pleasure of taking on a challenge/ something new to learn.

We basically absorb, through emotional osmosis, our parents' responses to things.